I've been using a lot of (already limited) mental space this weekend, wondering why I am doing this blog. It started as a way to remember some of the funny things the kids were doing. And it slowly changed into a way to tell friends and family about the funny things that were happening in my life (because as those of you who know me have found, I seem to attract odd events). But that's not enough to really sustain a regular blog - at least, not for me. Because then when I have hard weeks, like I did a couple of weeks ago, my blog gets ignored - boring, dry, and empty. And without any point.
I don't really have a passion for writing, in and of itself. But I do have a passion for people. And for community, for families, for relationships, for all of us supporting each other. In my 32 years I have discovered that being a human being is hard. Sometimes, for some of us, even harder than we thought we could survive. I've lived through a seven year marriage, a divorce, single parenting, giving birth to a child who's father I only dated for a handful of months, the loss of people I have loved. And people close to me have lived through much more - losing children, surviving (or not) cancer, and that's not to mention all the mundane day-to-day stuff we manage. But here is my point (I really do have one): we live! And I think that if we honestly share our experiences, our thoughts, and our laughter -- then we even get to enjoy the ride together. And that's the fun of it!
So here are my goals for this blog:
- To be honest - as honest as I can be without incriminating anyone other than myself. About the hard parts of being a single mom and the easy parts. The funny parts and the not-so-funny parts.
- To be brief - because I don't know about you, but that's the best I can hope for.
5 comments:
Ok Syd are you reading my mind? I was just having a whole "why am I blogging" discussion with myself this weekend and you put it out there quite well. I am doing it for the exercise of writing and to get (hopefully) some feedback. So here's to blogging to get what ever it is off our chests and to share our human experience. Blog on.
Hey! I hope you don't stop blogging. I love reading what you post. I think about things you have said and it really helps me as I travel through my own days. I also really admire your honesty. It isn't easy to put it all out there (the foibles, and the things that will be funny... later), but we all have those experiences. And, it's so liberating to be reminded that other people do too ('cause it's so easy to look around and just assume everyone else has their shit together)! xo Blog on.
Thanks, you guys. I think that really is the case. I feel like sharing the human experience is the best way to survive this life, and to really enjoy it. And it is so true that it seems like everyone else has their shit together and I NEVER.HAVE.MY.SHIT.TOGETHER. Ever. :-) lol.
OK actually, I think I might have had my shit together one time for about five minutes. But it was over two years ago and I don't really remember the details.
Thanks for your comment and introducing me to your blog. This pretty much sums up the experience I think a lot of us are having. I started blogging as a way of expressing myself about my separation and keeping my family in tune with me, more like a journal, but now I find that it is more of a therapy and a reminder of what I am/have been going through. Also, it's nice to reach out to a community of bloggers who are/have been going through the same things as you. Makes you feel a bit more sane on those crazy days, which seem to be more than less with little ones!
Keep up the great work, I'll be staying along fro the ride.
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